By Debra W. Gould, MS
At the mall last week I saw a great t-shirt. It had a fancy design with the slogan "Living the Dream." But it had a big red line through the word "Dream" and underneath was printed "Plan B." It made me laugh because so many people I know at this point in their lives aren't doing exactly what they had envisioned. Sound familiar? That might not be such a bad thing, as we explain in this message.
1. Find gratitude and redefine "failure." Too often we accept mediocrity as "success" because they are afraid of failure. They have not learned what does and doesn't work, and they have no Plan B to implement what they learn. Truly successful people often cite a specific failure that helped them on the path to success.
2. Become your own hero. It actually may be a problem to have everything go well from the beginning because when leaders do inevitably fail, they can become demoralized. Instead, trying different things and moving on when they don't work out can create the mental toughness required to gain and maintain success.
3. Lose the shame. Many individuals have been conditioned to avoid failure because it shows we are imperfect and that brings shame. In reality, "Failure offers the gift of bringing priorities into focus."
When once asked about his success, NBA great Michael Jordan replied: "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed." Had he been afraid to take that first game-winning shot or had he stopped taking them after he missed the first one, he would not have succeeded.
Debra W. Gould, MS is the president of Debra Gould & Associates, Inc. based in New Orleans and provides management consulting and training services to commercial and government clients. Debra is one of the founders of The Ebony Speakers and co-author of the book, Real Women, Real Issues - Positive Collaborations For Business Success.
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